When you get frustrated with someone—be it a coworker, teammate, or partner—a typical reaction is to call them out. Instead of highlighting the problems in the open—and possibly embarrassing them—use it as an opportunity to be a positive influence and help. P
Writer Jeff Giesea at the Harvard Business Review suggests that calling people out is a common emotional release that only seeks to prove somebody wrong. Calling them forth, however, gives you the chance to correct them in a disarming and constructive way:P
That’s the thing with calling people out. It often, not always, comes from a place of ego or reaction. The intent, conscious or not, is to make the other person wrong. There’s also a public aspect to calling someone out, of making them lose face. The tone is adversarial. And ultimately, you’re putting the burden of change entirely on the other person (“Stop it!”).P
Calling people forth, in contrast, comes from a place of service and an open heart. The intent is to call the person to higher ground. It builds on their strengths. The tone is collaborative. And ultimately, you’re sharing the burden of getting better (“How can I help?”). It feels more like coaching than scolding
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