Somewhere between my last girlfriend leaving me in 2000 and now I sort of just got used to being single and doing things like going to movies alone and now I sort of fear contact with people, especially people of the opposite sex (i.e. the one I’m interested in romantically). I hate to be contrary to the poor guy who never gets in front of the camera, but pushing 45 and being single pretty much sucks all the ass. Everyone I know is married and child-rearing and I find myself doing the “half my age + 7 is the creeper limit” formula just to find women I can imagine myself with, but really no woman on the low end of that equation is interested in an old dude like me unless I become rich and powerful. Blah.
As an unattractive, semi-intelligent, unfunny, marginally educated man, I fear I will be alone until I die, forgotten.
On the other hand, were I an attractive, intelligent, funny, and educated woman, I wouldn’t fear for finding a guy. Ana will have zero problems with the “being single too long” issue as long as she remembers that love is not like in the movies where there’s this one person just for you. There’s always compromise. Relationships are always less than perfect, but also better because by being with someone new, you can learn and experience new things. I wouldn’t trade away the things I learned from my six past girlfriends for anything, even though none of those relationships worked out.
Ana Kasparian is SINGLE?! “Wait a minute…wait a minute…now WAIT A MINUTE!” I have degrees in Political Science, Psychology, and French (can I date you?!). It’s funny how Ana actually believes she’ll struggle to find a mate! WHAT?! Ana, you have EVERYTHING a man looks for: beauty and intelligence! Quit with the pity party because every educated male is vying for your attention!
How the hell does it take 7 years to know that “it just didn’t work out”? Come on Ana, now you can go do that crazy stuff that you always wanted to do. Be happy that you are single.
AK47 enjoy being single for as long as you can. Take plenty of time to soak it all in. You’re a real catch, the total package if you will, so whenever YOU are ready to open the door for a new relationship the fellas will be in line waiting.
Ana you have nothing to worry about. You are beautiful, ambitious, and smart; a total catch. At the risk of sounding cliche or cheesy — keep your head and standards up bc you deserve a great guy!
Seven months out of a four-year relationship, planned on getting engaged, lived together, early thirties, New York City.
Ups and downs, awkward as hell, you miss being with the other person more than the other person. Hell, when it was time to refurnish the lost items in the apartment, it was the first time back to IKEA since she and I went together when we got this apartment. And! And the IKEA was literally playing broken hearted love songs almost the entire time.
It is kinda cool to get a new start though. You can take everything you’ve learned from that relationship–what made it work, what didn’t make it work, the positive life lessons gained, and use all of that to make yourself a better person. The tricky thing is not focusing on trying to only make yourself more attractive to others or more attractive to the ghost of the person who is no longer there (it happens regardless of whether you want that person back or not). Make yourself the best person you can be and others will notice and become attracted to the happiness and peace you resonate. Or something.
Oh yeah, and going back into dating is awkward as fuck. Good luck with that one.
I remember that too! And ever since then every time Ana spoke about her boyfriend I noticed there was never any talk of long term plans. Just the fact that she had been in this relationship forever. No cute stories, never once did he come by the studio and say hi to the members or something (Cenk’s family members and Jayar’s brother have done it), there didn’t seem to be any passion left. And when she moved out of her parents’ house, she moved in alone, instead of with her boyfriend of several years which seemed weird to me.
Plus, lately she’s been talking much more openly about guys and celebrities she finds attractive. It seems like this was a long time coming. Enjoy being single though, Ana! You’re a huge inspiration for us women in our early 20s :)
Oh and please share the details of your adventures in singledom for the members so we can root you on.
I know what Ana means about others having kids around our age. I’m about one year younger than her. I tried dating a girl with a kid, and it was the worst experience of my life. The baby’s daddy drama, plus having to deal with the kid with our relationship is shitty. The kid always comes first.
Maybe its a gay thing but I totally agree with Dave, going to movies alone is great. Ana, enjoy being single for a while, you’re a beautiful intelligent women, someone will sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. Don’t stress about finding someone, the more you worry about finding someone and the harder you look the less likely you’ll have any success.
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Let me guess, this is four years later and Bart is still waiting for this mysterious girl to come to him.
I guess the truth is somewhere in the middle.
Don’t get stressed out, there’s no reason to, Kasper, but don’t put it of too long.
Sorry to hear that Kasper. I also ended a long relationship (9 years). It spanned my entire adult life too. Oh well.
Somewhere between my last girlfriend leaving me in 2000 and now I sort of just got used to being single and doing things like going to movies alone and now I sort of fear contact with people, especially people of the opposite sex (i.e. the one I’m interested in romantically). I hate to be contrary to the poor guy who never gets in front of the camera, but pushing 45 and being single pretty much sucks all the ass. Everyone I know is married and child-rearing and I find myself doing the “half my age + 7 is the creeper limit” formula just to find women I can imagine myself with, but really no woman on the low end of that equation is interested in an old dude like me unless I become rich and powerful. Blah.
As an unattractive, semi-intelligent, unfunny, marginally educated man, I fear I will be alone until I die, forgotten.
On the other hand, were I an attractive, intelligent, funny, and educated woman, I wouldn’t fear for finding a guy. Ana will have zero problems with the “being single too long” issue as long as she remembers that love is not like in the movies where there’s this one person just for you. There’s always compromise. Relationships are always less than perfect, but also better because by being with someone new, you can learn and experience new things. I wouldn’t trade away the things I learned from my six past girlfriends for anything, even though none of those relationships worked out.
God you’re such a whiner. Life as a successful white young attractive female must be SO hard!
Smiley face.
Ana Kasparian is SINGLE?! “Wait a minute…wait a minute…now WAIT A MINUTE!” I have degrees in Political Science, Psychology, and French (can I date you?!). It’s funny how Ana actually believes she’ll struggle to find a mate! WHAT?! Ana, you have EVERYTHING a man looks for: beauty and intelligence! Quit with the pity party because every educated male is vying for your attention!
Also, you have tremendous courage to put your private life “up front”….
John John John! Represent CT! Dude you’re gonna have to get a car. (I’m routing for ya!)
How the hell does it take 7 years to know that “it just didn’t work out”? Come on Ana, now you can go do that crazy stuff that you always wanted to do. Be happy that you are single.
AK47 enjoy being single for as long as you can. Take plenty of time to soak it all in. You’re a real catch, the total package if you will, so whenever YOU are ready to open the door for a new relationship the fellas will be in line waiting.
Ana you have nothing to worry about. You are beautiful, ambitious, and smart; a total catch. At the risk of sounding cliche or cheesy — keep your head and standards up bc you deserve a great guy!
I think Ana and John Iadorola should get toghether. That way Ana won’t have to be single and John can finally have a girlfriend. It’s win win!
Johnny I is gonna make his move now! Hopefully you’re not in the friend zone!
Now that it’s over, can we learn how to spell Ladiz (sp?)?
Seven months out of a four-year relationship, planned on getting engaged, lived together, early thirties, New York City.
Ups and downs, awkward as hell, you miss being with the other person more than the other person. Hell, when it was time to refurnish the lost items in the apartment, it was the first time back to IKEA since she and I went together when we got this apartment. And! And the IKEA was literally playing broken hearted love songs almost the entire time.
It is kinda cool to get a new start though. You can take everything you’ve learned from that relationship–what made it work, what didn’t make it work, the positive life lessons gained, and use all of that to make yourself a better person. The tricky thing is not focusing on trying to only make yourself more attractive to others or more attractive to the ghost of the person who is no longer there (it happens regardless of whether you want that person back or not). Make yourself the best person you can be and others will notice and become attracted to the happiness and peace you resonate. Or something.
Oh yeah, and going back into dating is awkward as fuck. Good luck with that one.
I dunno why, but it is SUPER weird seeing Cenk talking from the producer table.
I thought there was something strangely awesome about it.
Yeah, that was fairly hilarious.
Just wanna throw it out there, I totally called this back in like June!
Totally pulling a Cenk but I totally called that!
Was that you?! I remember reading that prediction xD
I remember that too! And ever since then every time Ana spoke about her boyfriend I noticed there was never any talk of long term plans. Just the fact that she had been in this relationship forever. No cute stories, never once did he come by the studio and say hi to the members or something (Cenk’s family members and Jayar’s brother have done it), there didn’t seem to be any passion left. And when she moved out of her parents’ house, she moved in alone, instead of with her boyfriend of several years which seemed weird to me.
Plus, lately she’s been talking much more openly about guys and celebrities she finds attractive. It seems like this was a long time coming. Enjoy being single though, Ana! You’re a huge inspiration for us women in our early 20s :)
Oh and please share the details of your adventures in singledom for the members so we can root you on.
Don’t give up on the Mexicans!
Haven’t seen this yet, but fears of being single? Really? I have fears of being monogamous.
LOL
Ana enjoy life!….and get rid of that Lincoln!
I know what Ana means about others having kids around our age. I’m about one year younger than her. I tried dating a girl with a kid, and it was the worst experience of my life. The baby’s daddy drama, plus having to deal with the kid with our relationship is shitty. The kid always comes first.
Maybe its a gay thing but I totally agree with Dave, going to movies alone is great. Ana, enjoy being single for a while, you’re a beautiful intelligent women, someone will sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. Don’t stress about finding someone, the more you worry about finding someone and the harder you look the less likely you’ll have any success.
Lol. Dunno what part of gay entered into it. I have been going to movies alone for a while. You get to watch whatever you want. :)
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